24 Hours in a day

We struggle to find time in the day. The struggle is real. When we take on too much, we neglect other important aspects in our life. Our life then feels puzzled and dismantled. You feel overwhelmed and exhausted. When we take on too much to handle we end up sacrificing other important cups.

Do you agree when you look your life as a whole? Say you have a jug of water which is equivalent to the 24 hours in a day. Now you need to pour that jug of water into the aspects of your life that need water; say these are the plants that need water. If a plant is left without water it will starve, and die. Like a relationship, if you don't give it effort or time; it will naturally just die from a connection. So we have a plant for sleep (8 hours?), a plant for work (8 hours?). That already makes up 16. You are left with 8 hours to fill any other plants that you have going on in your life. Say, you enjoy to go to the gym (1 hour?). Now only 7 remain, driving (although it's necessary, sometimes if feels like a waste of time, unless you have a driver) - (1 hour? probably more). Now only 6 remain. Do you need to cook your meals? (1 hour). Now only 5 remain. Are you married? Do you have kids? How much time are you going to pour into their plant to grow? Just because time overlaps with some of the interactions doesn't mean you neglect pouring a full hour for that plant.

My point is this. We struggle by trying to please others, we try to take on too much. Meanwhile we neglect some of the most important aspects of our life that hold us together. We struggle with prioritizing, so then we miss out on big events, or making someone (like your partner, or spouse) feel important. If you struggle with date ideas or how to make your partner or spouse feel seen, I will help! I love being romantic. Post-it notes: YES PLEASE! <3

Moral of my post is that no matter how much we want to give, we need to realize that we don't have that enough give in us (that much time). As people we get burnt out, overstimulated, and overwhelmed. That is natural, to think that it's not happening to you is neglecting your self care. We need balance. Also you need to be reminded that out of all connections that you try to carry, if one of them needed your help? What does that look like? Because if you're willing to help a friend, however if your partner calls and needs help and you say "no". Who's more important to you? I have seen this happen to so many couples. It's a trigger for so many people. #DOOMSDAY.

So why do we continue to go into overdrive? Well it's quite simple; we are people pleasures. So as a teenager; it's justifiable to have 20 friends that you regularly see. Mostly you see them everyday at school, and some outside of school. Until you realize and outgrow this phase in your life, you will always want to please people. More and more, which is unrealistic because as a teenager you don't have the same obligations and responsibilities as an adult. Therefore to maintain 20 friends as an adult is near impossible, on top of work, spouse/partner, children, housework, errands, kids activities, hobbies, downtime, and personal care. Your 20 friends in highschooler turned into 20 friends of "tasks" as an adult.

I have learnt that my friendship circle got smaller because I've been giving more time and energy into what was more important, my family. The one that was within the four walls. My plants that needed the most watering and the most sun from me. I need those plants/flowers to grow. My friends whom are adults also understand.

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